It’s 2 am, the visitors are finally gone…and not a creature was stirring….except for my sweet sweet, angel-demon baby! OMG…why is she crying bloody murder? My parachute hospital gown was starting to soak in sweat, but not out of fear for my baby, but rather, fear that the nurses were going to call Child Services and have my noob baby taken away.
Yes, this is when you suddenly feel jumped, possibly shanked, into the rough-and-tumble, nitty gritty hood of …. parenting. What they forgot to tell you in parenting class 101:
Your baby is going to transform from that sweet, quiet, sleepy ball of dough into a crazy crying maniac when all the visitors and nurses have retreated. Was she hungry? I wondered. Well, she had just nursed an hour ago. I was still naively thinking that babies will nurse typically every 2-3 hours. Diaper was ok. WTF then?
Noob hubby jumped to attention and initiated the 5s Sequence -for those of you who remember Dr. Karp from your parenting classes: Swaddle. Side. Shush. Swing. SUCKKKKKK! Well, it turns out the last one does it…sucka! This is what they should have told you straight up in parenting and breastfeeding 101. “Yes, your body can make enough C-O-L-O-S-T-R-U-M, but your baby is going to hate you until the real thing comes in!” All I kept hearing in every single class was how our bodies have enough milk for the baby….the baby’s stomach is only the size of a marble…and on and on. But in all reality, my baby was not happy with the “Virgin Colosa.” She wanted the real s–t. Hence..initiate baby meltdown mode.
Well, I finally had the courage to buzz the nurse and ask her what the hell was going on? Was my baby starving? Did I break the baby already? She finally told me what they should have told us in those classes.
Parents-to-be….heed this warning: It’s ok. Your baby will be hungry and grumpy as hell. And even though you may have enough colostrum, noob baby will be totally unsatisfied. Therefore, there is the option of getting supplemental formula from the nurse should you so choose to enter that controversial, guilt-laden territory for just a few nights until Mommy’s milk comes in. Basically, till the s–t blows over. Although, I have to guess having baby go at it incessantly for the first few nights probably does help Mommy’s milk come in faster.
Anyway, I was soooooo wanting to get just a tiny shmidge of formula for our daughter. They even came in these little pre-made bottles. Just screw on the nipple and go! But, I have a pretty strong-willed hubby, and my conscience was still mulling over all the evils of formula. So, we pressed on through the next night as well, knowing full well that our poor baby was just a hungry-sucky baby.
Let me just say that the one blessing that I didn’t expect was when the nurse came by to give Noob Baby her blood screening. Oh yeah, the nurse rolls in with her bloodwork cart and these sweet little pods of baby “crack” (really just sugar water) that they dip the pacifiers in to help soothe baby while she’s getting her heels pricked. OMG…that sugary sweet pacifier lulled my baby to sleep for at least 2 hours where I was finally able to drift off into dreamland. Babies love that sugar water…and you’ll see the identifying markings of these babies as they leave the hospital in Mommy’s arms happily sucking away on their green Soothies pacy. I say bah! to those who tell you never a pacifier before your baby has firmly established breastfeeding. Remember, babies have an innate sucking reflex and need to suck when they are born. So unless you plan to be a human pacifier, it’s ok to give your baby a pacifier between meals.
I just started reading your blog and this post reminded me of the early days (my daughter is nearly 4 months) when I used these exact words – angel baby/demon baby! I wish I had read this then to get the LD on colostrum – would have panicked a lot lesser!
Thanks Dee!
HAHA! This is hilarious! I have a 2 year old girl, and my newest addition is 4 months old. I seriously wish I would have read this 2 years ago!
I completely agree with Lisa i needed this 5 months ago. That god forsaken colostrum is evil and me the dummy didn’t think to take a breastfeeding class thinking hell peoples done it forever how hard can it be…yeah. As insistent as i was to exclusively b.f. that formula was a godsend. Thank you so much for writing these all your blog post so far have been wonderful and reassuring that i’m not the only one.
I wish I had found your website before bubs arrived! I was shell shocked the first few days. Nobody told me that babies would be unsatisfied with colostrum !! She wailed and wailed til 4 days after birth, when the midwife arrived for a home visit and suggested a formula top up. The silence, when bubs stopped crying after finally filling her tummy was deafening.
Bubs is 4 months now, and I’m trying out the CIO technique. Your articles are a big help.. Thank you!
I love your website Noob mommy! I had a similar experience with sugar water that may help others. My little Noobster wasn’t latching on very well. He kept falling asleep, and would slide right off my boob. It wasn’t until the 2nd night when this blessed nurse offered me a nipple guard. Her theory was that it would easier for the noob to latch on because he had to open his mouth wider. What she did next, was the real kicker…she sprinkled some of that deliscious holy water on the nipple guard! We had a successful latch…and quite a suck! It worked for the next few days, and by the following week we didn’t need to use the sugar water anymore. Of course when I look back at how ridiculous it was for me to think “We are already having our child addicted to sugar”, it honestly helped us to have a successful BFing experience. The first few weeks are the hardest for BFing. It helps to have support from experienced moms to encourage and give you low down on what the classes don’t go into. Happy to say, Noobster is 5.5 months and continues to BF…yay!
Ahahahahaha – I have to say, I *wish* I had read this before I had my baby girl. My god, that first night was HELL. After a 22 hour labour (which started at 10:30pm the night before, so I’d been awake for, ooh, a good day and a half), losing quite a lot of blood and being quite seriously anaemic and having not eaten properly for the entire labour, I was alone in the labour ward. Commence screaming child. Why, when in breastfeeding classes, do they not mention this magical fact that colostrum just doesn’t satisfy them?! I would call for a midwife to help, who would pick her up, wind her, say something like, “Oh there, that was all she wanted” and promptly leave only for my tiny, swaddled angel to become a flailing banshee within 30 seconds. It’s nice to know that I wasn’t the only one wondering if it was possible for my newborn baby to despise me already, ha!
Now she’s 7 weeks old, and we’re battling with the fact she has some sort of high security burp prison inside of her. You think you’ve got the wind out, then minutes later she’s moaning again and after a full hour of patting, rubbing and bouncing, the world’s tiniest, silent burp makes its way into the world… Every day brings something new to learn!!
Thanks for your comment Gem! 7 weeks old … what a handful! Congrats on being a new mom and I hope you find a few moments in the day for some downtime and reboot for yourself. Hope to see you around here more often!
Oh my! Thank you for writing this, and your blog! I am a noob mommy myself (our baby Eleanor is two weeks old), and I freaked out in the hospital as to why my baby was so upset! She was just hungry is all! Also why breastfeeding was so hard – well if only I knew it got a bit easier once milk comes in. I wish I had read your blog earlier but either way I got a kick out of this post.
Thanks for your comment Carey! Congratulations on your new little noob. I hope you are settling into a nice “routine” but mostly enjoying the wonders of motherhood!